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2018 – An Illustrated Year in Review

Another year, another “Illustrated Year in Review” … Top 10 Style (in roughly chronological order)

1. David’s Job

This past spring our school announced a slight change in administrative structure.  With our assistant academic principal leaving, it was decided that instead of replacing that position, they would instead create a new coordinator position responsible for “pastoral care.”  This seemed like a great opportunity for David and our family considering that ministry is a likely next step.  David applied and got the position, which involves overseeing student small groups and handling student discipline issues, basically promoting student well being.  He’s technically a “half-time” teacher as well although as the year has progressed, he’s had to take on some additional responsibilities there.  Overall we are so thankful for this opportunity to better serve students and our school community.

2. Pregnancy

While I didn’t write a series of blog posts this pregnancy, our journey to conception this go around was astonishingly similar.  After months of trying and beginning to dabble in assistance, we decided to take a break.  And then I got pregnant the next month.  We found out days before traveling home for the summer, and Clementine was so excited to share with family that she was going to be a big sister!  Thankfully it’s been pretty smooth sailing (no asthma issues, praise the Lord) although I am much more tired with this pregnancy … the fatigue is never ending!  Our official due date is February 5th, so all Jakarta could be celebrating this baby’s arrival with Chinese New Year fireworks!

3. Visit Home

Our summer consisted mostly of time spent bouncing back and forth between Dallas and Abilene, culminating in Clementine’s flower girl debut at my cousin’s wedding in Cincinnati.  She out-danced everyone at the reception, at one point attempting “the worm.” 

The summer was filled good food, outdoor activities, and time with friends and family.

Clementine got to see about half of her Hall-side cousins and most of her second cousins on my side.

Best of all we spent plenty of time with Gramps and Gran and Nonny and Grandaddy, Clementine’s favorite part of the summer by far.

4. C Turns 3

Three years old!  She’s definitely not a baby anymore.  It’s incredible to see her sweet, funny, smart personality emerge more and more with each passing year.  Thanks to some family friends, C rang in her third year of life with her very first horse and tractor rides.

5. English A

For the past two years I have taught English B (basically a high level language acquisition course) within our school’s International Baccalaureate program.  However, our beloved English A (similar to AP English) teacher left at the end of last year, which meant a transition into English A for me.  While I enjoy the course even more than English B, it does mean more students, more prep time, and wee bit more pressure … : /  I love it, though.  The students are insightful and hard working, and I’m thankful for the change.

6. C Starts School

I thought I would have a few more years to prepare for this, but kids start school at three years old over here.  Clementine was so excited to be “a real student,” complete with her school backpack and uniform.  There are only seven students in her K1 class, which allows for plenty of attention and skill development.  A truly international class, her classmates represent five different countries.

7. Hong Kong

My teaching a new IB course this year meant IB training in Hong Kong.  The last time I went for training it was in Singapore, and David flew up after school on Friday to hang out with me in the evenings.  The distance and addition of a child ruled out that possibility this go around, which meant four nights away from my family.  The training was excellent, however, and I got to explore HK a bit in the evenings on my own.  Dim sum … yum.  🙂

8. Australia

The highlight of the year!!  This really should be its own post, but who has time for that …  This summer we found really reasonably priced tickets and figured with baby on the way, now was the time to make this bucket list trip.  We split our time mainly between Sydney and Adelaide with a Great Ocean Road trip thrown in to bridge the two.  The Neales moved back to Sydney in June, and we were ecstatic to spend quality time with some of our favorite people on their own turf. 

The Berrys moved away a couple years ago, so we were pumped to visit our Adelaide friends who made our first year in Indonesia bearable. 

Australia is so beautiful and despite our tropical wardrobes, it was wonderful to experience the cool spring weather of an Australian October.  We could not have asked for a better trip right up until the end when a delayed domestic flight caused us to miss our flight back home.  Three one-way tickets later and we were home, metaphorically richer and literally poorer for the experience.  😉

9. Books

It wouldn’t be a D&SH end of year blog without mentioning books!  This year was a record for me (I think … at least since I’ve been keeping records, that is) with 35.  David’s 38 still beat me despite being a record low for him. 

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Keeping track in our bullet journals!

2018 marked my third year in book club, with this year’s list including:

  • Siddartha – Herman Hesse
  • I, Robot – Isaac Asimov
  • Jane Eyre – Charlotte Brontë
  • A House Without Windows – Nadia Hashimi
  • Destiny of the Republic – Candice Millard
  • Little Women – Louisa May Alcott
  • Columbine – Dave Cullen
  • The Birdwoman’s Palate – Laksmi Pamuntjak
  • Year of Wonders – Geraldine Brooks
  • Nathaniel’s Nutmeg – Giles Milton
  • Reading Lolita in Tehran – Azar Nafizi

I’m proud of myself; it’s the first year I read ALL the books on our list (excepting Little Women and Columbine, which I had already read), with Jane Eyre standing out as my favorite.  2018 also marked our 5th year of #DaSHbookdates!  We started in December of 2013, so A Farewell to Arms, this year’s November pick, was our 60th book.

  • December 2017: Anna Karenina – Leo Tolstoy
  • January: Sing, Unburied, Sing – Jesmyn Ward
  • February: Jane Eyre – Charlotte Brontë
  • March: Lolita – Vladimir Nabokov
  • April: Purple Hibiscus – Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie
  • May: Great Expectations – Charles Dickens
  • June: The Poisonwood Bible – Barbara Kingsolver (with the Lucases!)
  • July: Little Fires Everywhere – Celeste Ng
  • August: A Separate Peace – John Knowles
  • September: Othello – William Shakespeare
  • October: Frankenstein – Mary Shelley
  • November: A Farewell to Arms – Ernest Hemingway

Maybe it’s because it’s so fresh on my mind, but I think it’s my book of the year (David’s was Great Expectations).  I might not have had quite Bradley Cooper’s reaction (spoilers in video), but let’s just say it was not the wisest choice to read at eight months pregnant …

10. Goodbyes & Hellos

Ugh, I wish I didn’t have to include this one!  We said farewell to some dear friends in 2018, one of the hazards of the expat life.  We had to say goodbye to my cousin (now teaching in Malaysia), our pastor and his incredible wife, and several coworkers including our sweet friends, Joel and Amanda.  Our whole family mourns their loss, especially Clementine as she was looking forward to starting school with her friend Evelyn.  While no one can replace these beautiful people in our lives, we are thankful for the new friends God has brought to us including a few families with young children around Clementine’s age.

So 2018 was a big year, and 2019 promises to be even bigger!  We hope this blog finds you well and that you richly experience the goodness of God in the new year.

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2017: An Illustrated Year in Review, Day 7 – The Conclusion to “Our Year of Living Minimally”

2017, Our Year of Living Minimally, has come and gone and it’s time for some reflection on how the decision to buy (almost) nothing for a year has impacted our family.  We are not the people we were at this time last year as this experiment has affected us in almost every way imaginable.  So here I share our five biggest benefits and takeaways from this project as well an as answer to the question for this year: What now?

  1. Perhaps the most tangible benefit to this undertaking is simply the amount of money we saved, or in our case, the amount of debt we were able to pay off.  We are teachers; we don’t make a lot of money, and for the past year and a half we’ve been living off 1.5 salaries (and just one the year before that).  I used to get really discouraged when thinking about how long it was taking us to pay off our school debt (Wheaton grad school loans are no joke, people); I felt like we would be stuck on Dave Ramsey’s baby step #2 FOREVER.  However, this year has cleared up a lot of that discouragement haze and allowed us to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
  2. Maybe the most surprising benefit is how our decision has affected our health.  David has always been fairly thin and fit, but this year he’s gained more muscle and speed than ever before.  He’s getting closer and closer to achieving his audacious goal of a sub-5 minute mile.  I, on the other hand, will be happy to get back into sub-10 minute mile shape, and I’m not that far off.  🙂  By making the one decision to limit our eating out to approximately once a month, we are both so much healthier.  From January 1 to January 1, I am down 32 pounds, and it honestly wasn’t that hard.  By preparing our food at home, we are able to control both the content and amount we consume.  And if I’ve gone to the trouble of cooking, you can bet that we try to stretch that meal out into leftovers.  Rarely do we go back for seconds but rather eat a piece of fruit or nuts if we’re still hungry … cost efficient and healthy.
  3. By outlining guidelines at the beginning of the year, we avoided decision fatigue and the often resulting poor spending choices.  By eliminating many options ahead of time (clothes shopping, buying gifts for each other, eating out, etc.), we simplified our lives and freed up mental energy for other pursuits.  I have spent my time this year reading, teaching, cooking, working out, playing with my daughter, and relaxing with my husband, all of which I argue are infinitely superior to going shopping!
  4. The biggest takeaway I would say is our change in mindset.  Honestly, that first month of eating out only for book dates hurt a little.  I was in withdrawal, and Friday nights hurt the worst.  However, now it’s the new normal, and I don’t even really think about it.  Or if I do (on the rare occasions we do eat out), I think about how much money we’re spending and how much I could have bought at the grocery store with that amount!  Eating out has become a treat, something to be thoroughly enjoyed, savored even, not taken for granted.  The same goes with any purchase.  If something is a true need and we’re going to depart with our hard earned money to buy it, I want to ensure that it will last, that it’s actually worth the cost.  If it is, then we work to take care of it.  We are learning to be faithful stewards of what’s been entrusted to us whether that’s time, energy, money, or possessions.
  5. The most surprising takeaway would be an increased confidence in our ability to do hard things.  The only thing I’ve ever given up for a year was soda, and it wasn’t that hard.  However, as I was hearing stories of people’s journeys and experiments with shopping bans over the course of a full year, I was incredibly inspired.  All these people were doing this really hard thing!  We could surely do it too, couldn’t we?  Yes, we could and we did.  We didn’t do it perfectly, but when I look back at my life years and years from now, I am certain I will consider 2017 a catalyst for the achievement of many audacious goals.

So, what now?  Are we done?  Do we now get to buy all the things?  Nope.  We’re signing up for another year … or 50.  We’ve discussed our needs for the upcoming year and have settled on some guidelines to see us through 2018.  Our eating out plan is still in place as is our clothes buying ban excepting some athletic wear we’re both in need of.  I don’t think I’ll churn out a post a month (considering I didn’t even meet that goal this year), but I do plan to keep writing about our experiences in frugality and minimalism mostly for selfish purposes in that it keeps me accountable to the guidelines we set.

Wishing you all a happy and healthy 2018!

 

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Enjoying her once a year Antipodean French toast!

2017: An Illustrated Year in Review, Day 6 – 2018 and Beyond

David and I aren’t career international teachers.  We didn’t move over here planning to retire in Indonesia; rather we were seeking to be faithful in “next steps.”  It began as a two year commitment and has grown into five.  This is our fifth year living overseas!  It doesn’t seem that long although I imagine our families would beg to differ.

Last year I went back to work part time teaching one section each of 11th and 12th grade English, and I could not love it more.  I always tell people I get the best of both worlds.  I get to spend time with my daughter as her primary caregiver while also taking on something mentally challenging and exercising my gifts.  It’s a sweet spot, for sure.  I’m not ready to go back full time, and for now we’re thankful to be in this somewhat odd situation that allows so much flexibility for our family.

Next year C will begin K-1 (school starts at 3 years old over here), and she’s already so excited about going to school “as a student.”  I’ll be able to teach while she’s in school and be there for drop off and pick up each day with the peace of mind that both David and I are in the same building with her should anything happen.  Our decision to renew contracts for another year was a bit tougher this year with my mom’s health issues, and we’re certainly keeping everything in mind moving forward.  For now we are looking forward to spending quality time with her and the rest of our family over the summer before returning to Jakarta for a sixth year in the fall of 2018.


I’ve fallen a bit behind on these end of year updates due to 1) potty training the first week of Christmas break, 2) an amoeba that destroyed our Christmas Eve/Christmas Morning, and 3) a desire to finish 30 books in 2017 … I finished the 29th today.  I’ll wrap up this blog series with a reflection on our Buy (Almost) Nothing Year sometime early in the new year, but for now Happy New Year to all and to all a good night!

2017: An Illustrated Year in Review, Day 2 – An Update on My Mom

The past few months have been a bit tough for our family.  Just after Thanksgiving I got a message from my dad that they had admitted my mom to the hospital due to rapid weight gain (over 30 pounds in three days!), and they were wary of her kidney function.  She was there for a few days, and it was ultimately decided that she would need to begin dialysis.

My mom has had a few health issues over the course of my life.  She was in the hospital two Christmases straight my 6th and 7th grade years, once for gallbladder issues and another time when they thought she had pancreatic cancer.  Thank the Lord, it turned out to be a cyst instead.  I remember being scared as a twelve year old girl but at the same time not really understanding just how much I had to lose.  Just after my brother was born, she was diagnosed with diabetes, which she has managed now for over twenty years.  The past couple years, however, she has experienced some problems with vision which require her to get shots in her eye every month or so.  She loves her eye doctor dearly, and thanks to the blood work they do each visit, they were recently alerted to issues involving her kidneys.

When I first heard the word dialysis in reference to my mother, my first thought went to Steel Magnolias, which of course terrified me.  Not knowing much about the treatment, I just pictured my mom succumbing to the same fate as Julia Roberts.  However, after some reading and discussions with friends and family in the medical field, I am much more encouraged as patients on dialysis can live for many years.  It’s a dramatic lifestyle change, definitely.  My mom will have to go for treatment three times a week for several hours at a time, and I think she’s mourning the loss of a normal life.  We’re so thankful, however, for the medical care she’s receiving and the huge circle of support and encouragement she has in her Abilene community.

Saturday night she was readmitted to the hospital, again for excessive weight gain in a short period.  She had been scheduled to have a temporary port put in early this week, but they went ahead and gave her her first round of dialysis on Sunday.  She had the port surgery yesterday and a second round of dialysis, which should be followed by a third round tomorrow.  Eventually she will receive her treatments through a fistula in her arm, but that will take awhile to heal once created.

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Thankful to have Kaye with my mom!

While physically this is certainly taking its toll on my mom, I think it impacts her emotionally just as much.  We wish we could be there to encourage and assist.  Clementine is the joy of her Gran’s life, and I know that nothing would cheer my mom more than a hug from her granddaughter.  We’re thankful that technology allows us to feel not so far away, and Clementine enjoys FaceTiming Gran in the “hossable” even if it means she doesn’t get to see the cats.  We are also so grateful that my aunt (who happens to be working through nursing school at the moment) is on break and is able to be there for my mom.  She’s such a rock for us all and a strong advocate for my mom.

Thankfully it looks like my mom will be released from the hospital soon and won’t miss another Christmas at home.  Thank you to those who have called and visited her and especially those who have prayed for her.  You have cared for and comforted my mom in my place, and I am immeasurably grateful.

More pictures from this summer (mostly) of C & Gran:

2017: An Illustrated Year in Review, Day 1 – Summer Synopsis

For several years now I have attempted a digital Christmas card letter/blog, often in the form of a top ten list.  This year I could only come up with seven things to share, so I’ve decided to break them into mini-blogs that I’ll be posting on the seven days leading up to Christmas.  Today’s (not-so) mini-blog is brought to you by our summer trip home.  (Can you tell we’ve been watching a lot of Sesame Street at our house??)

2017 marked our second summer visit back to the States since moving to Indonesia.  We had a full six weeks off this year, which allowed for much needed time with family and friends.  Upon landing we had about 36 hours before loading up for a 16 hour road trip to Gatlinburg, Tennessee.  It had been 18 months since everyone in David’s family (now numbering 22!) had gotten together, and with everyone spread out from Texas to DC and everywhere in between, Tennessee seemed like a great “meet in the middle” vacation destination.  David’s family rented a huge cabin which afforded a whole week’s worth of family togetherness.  We went hiking, white water rafting, cooked together, worshiped together, and played a ton of games.  Clementine got to meet her new cousin, August, and all of the cousins had a blast playing together.

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Cabin deck view

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A first for David and me!  Everyone else appears to be working a lot harder than I …

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The perfect space for our party of 22

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All 22 … and a half 😉

We also spent time in West Texas visiting my side of the family.  Our Abilene time was filled with traditional Abilene outings: visits to the Grace (for an outdoor showing of ET … David had never seen it), the Planetarium (where we were reprimanded for pushing the buttons on the astronaut suit), Perini’s (where C fell in love with sidewalk chalk), and the Abilene Zoo (C still talks about feeding the giraffe).  Clementine loved her time with her Gramps and Gran and Uncle Dan.  We made it up to Amarillo for the new annual tradition: Thanksgiving in July.  These short days were full of football, hiking, and lots of Rook.  In fact, for the first time since the inauguration of the Rook tournament plaque back in 2011, I won the tournament!  My mom and I made a good team and vanquished the other mother-daughter pair, Kaye and Carlee.

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Thanksgiving in July 2017

Thanks to my aunt lending us a car for the summer, we were able to take a few road trips to visit friends and family in Texas and Oklahoma.  David is an expert at planning these visits most efficiently!  We were thankful to spend time with loved ones in Austin, Waco, Georgetown, Norman, Harrah, and Oklahoma City this trip.  Even in Dallas I got to see a (newly engaged) old friend from my Illinois days!  Much fun was had spending time with David’s family in Dallas as well.

We are always thankful to be home over the summer because it means celebrating Clementine’s birthday with family.  And with our parents living only about three hours apart, Clementine gets plenty of celebration.  This year we got to spend her birthday morning with David’s parents and birthday evening with mine.

So that’s Day 1 … stay tuned for six more 2017 highlights!